It takes courage to grow up to become who you really are
Nobody tells this to people who are beginners. I wish someone had told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase; they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know that it’s normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you finish one piece. It’s only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and you work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take a while. It’s normal to take awhile. You just gotta fight your way through. Ira Glass And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once. And we should call every truth false which was not accompanied by at least one laugh.
It is nonsense to say that God fills the gap; God does not fill it, but keeps it empty so that our communion with another may be kept alive, even at the cost of pain
Dietrich Bonhoeffer Tegel Prison, Berlin 1945
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
Is love possible? Is freedom possible? Is the truth possible? Is it possible to be one’s actual self around another human being? Is it possible to be a human being anymore? Is it possible to be a person? Do persons even exist?
R D Laing